In all my time on the 'vine, there are things I have learned about people. One thing I have learned is that the overwhelming majority of people all want this world to be a better place, and for our kids to have something great to look forward to in their lives. This seems to be the driving force of life, as a matter of fact. We all have a deep urge to make it better than it was before, even though a lot of these things have ended up being to our detriment. Well, here's the cool part (I always love the cool part!):
We can fix some of these things without any detriment, whatsoever. We can manipulate our surroundings in a way that would make it a truly turned around place. All it takes is a little compassion, love, and an urge to do the right thing. Then, you also have Karma. Karma goes both ways. Do good, it comes back as good. Do bad, it comes back as bad. Its almost always greater than the thing you have done, good or bad. I like karma on my side, how about you?
I think the ability to work for the basic needs of survival should be a given to anyone on this earth. You need food, water, and protection from the elements. These things are not questionable luxuries, and they should not be treated as such. Any person should be able to attain them through work. Yes, A Right To Work.
I feel that everyone should work for their things. People should not use others to gain in anyway. Hard work is something to be proud of, not hate.
I also feel that those who are "up" should lift up the underdog a little to help them get "up" a little. Greed is not something anyone should be proud of. People often just need one small thing to make themselves successful, but it is often denied based on characteristics that include look, race, family, and background (according to this, no one is capable of change, even though many people do change from horrible to wonderful). Granted, I know that some people don't change, but, some people do.
I also feel that people should feel the need to offer a kind word or two to someone they see in passing. Excuse me, pardon me, thank you, HI!, allow me, and others used to a part of our daily language. To EVERYONE. Until we had a reason not to. Now, we have to have a reason to do them in the first place. What happened? When did we become impolite jerks?
Kids didn't kill themselves for bullying when I was in school. Or, more correctly, it was in so small of numbers that I didn't hear about it, if it did happen. Now, its once a week, at least, that I hear of it. I'm not saying it was perfect when I was in school, but we dealt with it different, or something. I don't know, but, I sure wouldn't want to be a student today. That's for sure.
I feel that most of the above comes from a lack of closeness and communication with our kids. You need to give your kids the tools to effectively stand up for their beliefs. They learn that from you. You need to know what issues your kids are having in order to effectively teach them valuable life skills. Our kids are living the consequences of our actions. Whether we want to admit it or not, they are. The only way to give them the ability to conquer these things is to address the issues, and give them multiple tools to take care of their issues as they come. And to know that they have someone on their side no matter what.
You can be a parent that teaches it all, or nothing. I want to be the parent that teaches it all. I want my kids to know I am there for them, but I also want them to know that there are certain things that are unacceptable. And they do, for the most part. Every kid makes mistakes, but not every kid will learn from them. I am striving for my kids to learn from them as often as possible.
I guess the point of this whole thing is that our kids are going to have a long, hard road if we don't step up, and remember what is important for THEM. We need to remember that they are ultimately who takes over. Why would we want them to be unprepared? Why do we want to leave them a mess? Why do we want to leave them hopelessness? This is not something I want to leave my kids. I want my kids to have all the things that they need to lead happy, healthy, full lives. Don't you?
This is pretty much what I feel is the basis for everything in life. The legacy you leave behind. I want it to be a good one. One that makes my family proud. One that makes me proud. One that becomes something to continue.