What do you do when the poop hits the roof, and you get so stressed that you want to pull your hair out? What do you do when you have to pay that extra $1000 to fix the car, and you still have two weeks till payday? What about that $500 deductible for that accident?
Do you freak out, not sleep, and hide from the bill collectors?
"Who's there?" in a shaky little voice, that you tried your best to change, while hiding under the blanket like they can see your face through the phone. Like they know your voice or something. "Oh, shes not here at the moment. She left town to go to her sisters-brothers-cousins wedding." Great. Now I sound like I am inbred trying to lie. MAYBE I AM! I know my mom said something about distant cousin... "She should be back next Friday, you know how them deep woods folk do it!" Do you think he heard the chuckle?
Do you start planning on robbing the bank (cannot have a bad credit score today!), or do you take some deep breaths, slow down, and start looking at more... Healthy... Options?
"What will you give me for this necklace?" "Um. $5." That DIRTY WORD! He told me they were real! Now, you start thinking about murder, and the fact that you dont have to pay bills in prison. "Is there any way you could give me a loan?" "On this? No." "No, a payday loan?" "OH! I see." Blah blah blah. There are plenty of people willing to pay you cash for access to a check at a higher rate. Swindlers. I have been a customer of Mr. Money for like six years. LMAO. I get them paid off only to owe them more money.
Me, I have a list I go through. 1) I freak out, start pulling my hair out, and then start looking for things to take to the pawn shop (that was a weekly event for a while), 2) I get un-hair-pulled-looking, and call my mom. She proceeds to tell me the old line I gave her from an old friend. "Can you do something about it right now?" No. "Well, stop worrying about it until you can." One of the best lines ever, and the person who gave it to me used it so much, he didnt recognize me when I ran into him a few days ago. Weird. DONT OVER USE THAT LINE! The results could be catastrophic. 3) Start figuring out what I CAN Do, and stop worrying about what I CANT do. Get the easy out of the way first.
Are you a person who just lays there, takes it, and hides under the blankets (that commercial with the bill beating the door down comes to mind), or are you a person who goes up to that bill collector, and beats the crap out of him, telling him he aint getting you down YET! "Not this time, buddy!" I sure hope you are the one doing the beating, not the other way around. Hiding from the gas or water guy. It never works out well. I always end up falling down the stairs while trying to keep an eye on him. If you can successfully pretend that you arent home, they might give you an extra day for being out of town. YEAH RIGHT! They have hidden cameras in your closet! They know you are there, they get paid to do this stuff!
I am firm believer that you dont ever get handed anything you cannot deal with, unless it is literally killing you. I believe that the creator of all that we see before us gives us many curves, but for a reason. Not just to put a kink in your style. Thats not to say we dont ever think "I cant take anymore." Yes, you can, and it will be proved every time you say that. Dont say bring it on, either. Just deal with it. Or you will be shown that you can and will take on more than you ever thought possible.
The universe has to correct itself constantly. There are things making the alignment a little shaky constantly. "For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction." Sir Isaac, You were a VERY smart man, and you were absolutely correct on this. I believe you are in control of what you do, how you take care of your problems, and how you relate to them happening. There are things we have no control over, and there are things we do. The creator gave us the ability to solve these problems ourselves because it is what makes us who we are.
I have to constantly remind myself that I am here for a reason, whatever that may be. That doesnt mean that I dont want to be here, or feel like a pawn, I dont. Sometimes I feel as though the universe has put a black bag on my head, and it wont let me out. I just tell myself that that bag is for me, and no one else can wear it. Thats why its on me.
The curves that get thrown at you are gonna make you crazy! They are. Just use yourself to dig out. Take it a day at a time. Only eat dinner until payday. Eat leftovers. Send your kids to school for meals, and work out a deal with the office about payment on payday. More often than not, they will. Take out a LITTLE payday loan, like $200. Manageable. Something you can pay back quickly.
This is also a way to deal with everything from a crappy boss (just know that it aint you that makes them unhappy, its them, and nothing will change that until they change that), to a doctor that isnt doing what you want. Asking for help can help! REALLY. It can. Know your options. I guess I really just want people to know that they can do something about their problems. They just have to take the first step. Figure out where the pieces go.
To all that have wanted to hide from the bill collectors, I salute you! Without you, I never would have figured out how to stay afloat. Thanks, mom!